I make significantly more money than he does as a resident, but I know that my job is secondary. Find out what your partner thinks of as non-negotiable. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. I grew away from mine as my husband then-boyfriend slowly grew closer to his Mormon faith. It will definitely take patience to work through any of this with her but it sounds like she's a pretty awesome person. Then she can have a chance to actually be the individual she is, and they can have an adult conversation about their future and whether or not they have one. I forgot to add, that if you marry and alow your children to be raised as Mormon, chances are you wont be able to be at their wedding because it will be in the temple. I mean, I get where it comes from but it's so ridiculous. He is always going to be the vulnerable, tired, needy one in our relationship and I don't feel like a doormat for being the one who provides that support and love to him anymore.
You are a good person and she can see that. So I understand how it's easy to believe nonsense when you're brainwashed from birth, and how it can be comforting to believe your life is somehow very important in the grand scale of the universe, and how you don't have to be afraid of death because you'll go on to a better place where you'll live happily ever after for eternity. I wouldnt encourage my kids to date a mormon. My question is, my 30th birthday weekend is coming up and when I mentioned it to him he informed me that an old friend from college's wedding was that weekend and that he wanted to go. With so much pervasive degeneracy in the media, Mormon parents think they are safe showing their kids Disney movies. Like many single members of the church, I have often wondered whether I would be willing to marry someone outside of the temple, and over the past few years I have come to believe that I would be willing to do so. Really, I'm interested in this too. I am a fierce supporter of him and of his profession but at high cost to my own individuality.
First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. That said, Mormons have learned to have fun without alcohol and often have to wait until drinkers are well-oiled and loosened up to join in the dopey-ness. I feel to say, if you hear this, Amy, in time, it will all come round right. But, as soon as the marriage happened, the Mormon spouse goes full on Orthodox and expects the non Mormon to comply. Interestingly, my parents felt the same way about him. Joanna mentioned that our theology is rich with opportunities for second chances. Life is a journey and going through it with a true partner, and a mutual respect for curiosity, is so far greatly rewarding.
Her church is more important to her than you are ever will beplain and simple. It is a new experience yet for me as I have only been married 6 months to a doctor. And depending on his views of the Sabbath, you will probably get the tug of war on Sundays. Even if you are looking towards marriage, it can be better to hold off on more serious activities until a couple of dates to make sure you both feel the relationship is moving in the right direction. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Would they have stayed in the church if dad was a member. Let him respond before you say anything else.