Thanks so much for all the time you've put into your replies. Lots of good hearty healthy food. I alway understood and supported him so it was my way of being useful in the world, too.
Much good luck, and keep us in the loop. I think the LDS have been vastly over-simplifying that doctrine. Like many single members of the church, I have often wondered whether I would be willing to marry someone outside of the temple, and over the past few years I have come to believe that I would be willing to do so. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for four and a half years and recently broke up. LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. If this is the case, she definitely can be reprogrammed and awakened. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her. A lot of shared hobbies, interests, life goals.
My parents met when my mom was in 8th grade and married when she was I think my sister married fastest and knew her husband at least 18 months, dating for at least half that. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. I stand by my original statement. He was not a prominent man in the church. Really have to walk in someone's shoes to understand.
First, let's start with a short musical introduction on what it's like to be a True Believing Mormon dude. Eventually I hope each wards get to a point where they know that as a ward family our job is simply to make sure that each person, member or non member knows that when they enter the house of the Lord, they are loved. He has no idea now long it actually takes to finish boards and match. It sucks to admit, but I broke up with him after 6 months because I didn't think there was any point if we couldn't be together forever. But it would not change my love for that person. It's winter here and I figured she was layering for warmth. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. No one could compare to the man I married.