But DON'T become in need of care as a spouse. Nothing less will do. What a bozza topic. But the lies sting some people. He says he hasn't loved me for the last 2 years and was only staying for the sake of the kids. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others.
At parties, they drink soda and play board games. It's a fairly new relationship and I don't want to jump to any conclusions. No sex before marriage. This guy is always busy. If your relationship is moving forward, or she suggests doing something more expensive, it is not inappropriate for her to help pay as well. You will raise the kids by yourself, and he won't help even when he's home because he'll be too tired or feel too entitled to HIS time alone. Given the fact that doctors, esp surgeons, have a very busy life in US, it seems logical. After our first kiss she lets me know she won't have sex with me because she's mormon and we'd need to be married first. After all, when he IS around, he never makes them do anything they don't want to do, and he buys them expensive things to make up for being absent from their lives so much.
I had to lobby and cry alot so I could bring my dog up, I am not sure how that will go because dogs have hair, need to go out, and the house might get messed up. She was fine marrying in an LDS church instead of the temple, didn't want to convert me, and most importantly didn't try to change my beliefs or opinions. Best wishes in whatever you decide. Which is the highest place in heaven aka celestial kingdom. She's really attractive, too. That deal with polygamy explained.
I agree with Rachel- this is not what I signed up for. Then I discovered that Mormons were a welcome exception to the degeneracy that pervades American women. She will be pressured and will likely shut you out. I think in most situations its either you join or she leaves- either you, or the church. If you want him - he is part of a medical school package right now, and likely will be for some time to come.