If she says yes. We have all felt it and our house seems absolutely different. Nor was there a lack of compassion or respect. If she identifies as a Mormon, then she probably takes her faith seriously, and it means a lot to her.
I'm sorry you may be hearing a lot of negativity from us. This came about after many hours and many days of prayer, scripture study, going to the temple, receiving a priesthood blessing, and speaking with people I greatly trust my mom, especially. This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. I would never change my decision to marry him. She might not be keeping the Word of Wisdom, living according to the Law of Chastity, or attending church regularly.
But if you are with someone who is plainly selfish or dishonest or mean, then don't let them use their occupation as an excuse. At the risk of overloading this post, I'm going to copy and paste here, a Reddit comment that I made in this exmo sub the other day. Their thinking is something like this. You will be able to best gauge where her beliefs stand in regards to the church if you listen to how she describes her mission. I guess the only risk is your husband having an affair with someone at work. Now that I am married, it has become more apparent that his previous comments about not minding if his wife has a career, were not entirely accurate. Until you can believe someone else's beliefs are reasonable, you will not be able to treat them with the respect they deserve. And how little some men understand the value of a well-dusted baseboard. I am glad that I came across your blog.
There are plenty of marriages between Mormons and non-Mormons. It's not that she doesn't believe you right now, but it is a bone she will never drop. As far as as race and the priesthood, Mormons still believe the priesthood ban was divinely inspired.