What part of SoCal are you in. Ultimately we broke up. Now I look at his job and his schedule and his tiredness as a part of both of our lives, rather than something that is just his life that I have to deal with.
You've all been so helpful. I have learned this painfully with my child growing up in the LDS community. Just going to jump in and then jump out I remember how idealistic I was back then, but here's reality: You will be without him most of the time. I think a lot of what you say here really rings true, especially the part about the Date Night. Will you be open to me teaching my children my athiest point of view. It's an issue I just have to live with if I want to be with him, and I do, so I live with it. Without going into too much personal detail, I received a very real, strong prompting that I should marry this girl. If I catch you in the back seat trying to pick her locks, I'm going to send you back to mother in a card board box. Now to answer you question more directly, I believe you should discuss your fears with him so he understands exactly where you want your relationship to go for both of you, otherwise you might grow resentful of him and he may have no clue as to why.
Thought the girl and I had a future, and we did, just not with each other I'll bet there are hundreds of boyfriend converts out there. Hi there I have been married to a doctor for 16 years, first 10 as an orthopod next 6 as a plastic surgeon and still working towards the dream of a big house to show for all this hard work. Then I do my own work I am a recruiter and I work remotely most of the time, which is incredibly convenient for our relationship.
There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them. I get to spend my life with someone who was not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender roles. I'm in the exact same pulling-out-my-hair situation that you are. I learned that going out and having fun with friends every single weekend was not going to be part of our lifestyle together due to time restrictions, tiredness, etc. I now think that 2 is the only reasonable choice to make, even as a man в staying single my whole life в until and unless I find the woman whom I cannot live without, the woman who is a true companion to me. There are a million fish in the sea and it makes no sense to choose one with whom you are not religiously compatible. Unless you have some super amazing other dating prospect there isn't a huge reason to cut this relationship off now. I'm a Mormon girl in love with an amazing non-Mormon man. My family is pretty awesome in the church.