I am so glad to have found this blog too. He was not a prominent man in the church. What a miserable state. The bottom line is that you are setting yourself up for difficult times ahead.
Seeing his mom, being the pillar of his family, scares me to think I will not be as strong as her, since I have always been the pampered child since young. Patience my dear, that's what you're going to have to keep telling yourself. Dating in your teenage years will help you learn the kinds of things you value in another person. My mom works in the medical profession, and it was always hard when she was on call or had to work late, but she definitely works hard. It's an issue I just have to live with if I want to be with him, and I do, so I live with it.
But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. You can consider some positive activities and allow you to communicate and learn from each other. Maybe there is wisdom behind some of the peculiarities. Congratulations on understanding that and avoiding problems. Vh65, your marriage is a black swan.
I got married last year, left a great job, family, friends and city to be with my husband in a very small under developed town. How will your spouse feel about that in 20 years. In my view, baptism at 8 is just a variation on infant baptism. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also.