Ultimately we broke up. Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male. We are not judged only for what we do but why we do it. There is a lot about Mormonism I am still struggling to understand, but I am reading faith-based memoirs and studying up on Mormonism as well as other religions but the relevance here is on Mormonism.
I feel pretty awful about that whole thing. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. We can talk about everything, but I don't want him to feel as if he is under the microscope. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok. I would need to ask my husband again. Imagine if all the men in the world weighed over pounds and acted like slobs. Otherwise you risk having an awkward mix between dating and hanging out, which can be uncomfortable for those involved. I think she felt that it was important for me to understand the types of challenges in an interfaith marriage.
You can always expand these into group dates by inviting other couples along, which may make her more comfortable in the early stages of your relationship. And for mormons, the goal is always a temple marriage and a marriage for the eternities. Joanna mentioned that our theology is rich with opportunities for second chances. Thirty years ago I converted a guy and then dumped him for a returned missionary from an established LDS family. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. That being sais, just be honest. I would come back from one of our weekends together and they would ask how it was and I would talk about how amazing it was and what all we did.
This blog is very healthy because it has helped me to feel less resentful about all the time I have to spend alone doing homework and being at functions. So now I am here and I have made a go of it for a year, found a new job, made new friends, tried to grow to like a culture that is foreign to me. I know residency is particularly bad, but what about when he finishes that.